Integration

There is something about having healed a situation or trauma that empowers you. 

Maybe you suffered from some abuse for example, a tone of voice or a manner that a parent had that triggers you to this day. If your spouse or a shop assistant or friend even, displays this same behaviour it can be very upsetting for you if you have not healed that original culprit. You may drink or overeat to numb the issue and carry on allowing that person to behave that way, you carry on being around that person never calling out that behaviour that may be rude or abusive to whatever degree. Either way you are  stuck in that situation with that person until you heal the original culprit, the parental behaviour that was your first experience or wounding of that kind. 

So through giving up eating when full, drink etc and allowing yourself to be fully aware of how that behaviour makes you feel, if you feel it is abusive or rude or overstepping boundaries and even you may be dismissive of it as being unimportant, or impossible to remove yourself from or  impossible to change in any way. 

But maybe your awareness gives you a chance to say 'I will not tolerate you speaking to me like that' or I will not hang out with you / live with you / visit you if you continue with this behaviour or tone of voice' this changes things. If you allow yourself to feel the uncomfortable feelings, cry, beat pillows do forgiveness affirmations and do some soul searching and actually leave, you have just strengthened yourself. If anyone with a similar manner enters your life you are not so triggered but are able to handle the situation and  not be a victim of it, you recognise the danger so to speak, you see it as abusive and move away easily. You no longer overeat or indulge in any addiction to numb your feelings because you have healed.

For further info on healing eating disorders and losing excess weight permanently and naturally  email sofia2227@gmail.com

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