The Thing with Addiction

 The thing with addiction is when an unpleasant emotion arises you are focused on feeling better. The panic, the discomfort then the craving to feel better.  

When feeling better becomes your only focus, you are off the mark, on the wrong road so to speak.

 Whereas when you know there is a dynamic at play with the arising of an uncomfortable emotion, you are in a more authentic position from which to relate to that emotion. The uncomfortable emotion must be experienced, felt, and gone through in order to get to the feeling better. This going through the uncomfortable emotion is necessary to avoid addiction and also the way to give up addiction. We go through rather than suppress.

Why is going through an emotion preferable to suppressing it? Well, when you suppress anything, it gets worse. The uncomfortable emotion looks to an issue in need of resolving. To suppress it is to ignore it, not address it; and we all know that issues ignored or dismissed as unimportant will demand your attention one way or another. 

Basically problems need to find solutions - it's basic nature and evolution on all levels.  A disease not addressed will kill you, and addiction is a disease and it can kill directly or indirectly. That is why resolving, going through, solution-finding  and healing is preferable to suppression, ignoring and caving in to the craving to ''feel better'' with a quick fix.

My work in my workshops and one to one Skype sessions is all about teaching you the various ways to go through what you are going through in an addiction-free way.

For further info text 07530 531 655 or email sofia2227@gmail.com


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