Winds of Change

When the winds of change blow, do you follow them? What are the winds of change? How do they manifest in your life? Beyond being a well known saying The Winds of Change are a real concept in life. Whether we like it or not we are here, living a life of... what? Quiet desperation as the poet says? Or of fulfilling one's own heart-felt desires? 

We all know that we each want to be fulfilling our own heart-felt desires but were they not squashed in childhood or adolescence? 

Over many years of working with compulsive eaters and observing people I was surprised to find out how many did not know what they wanted in life. Or if they did have an inkling it was something they felt they could not achieve. Others were so buried in the day to day living, of marriage and kids, addicted to the acquiring of more and more mainstream wealth that they were on a treadmill. A treadmill running away from themselves without even being aware that that was exactly what they were doing. 

Thinking outside the box, having a hobby or interest beyond a glass of wine at night and a foreign holiday once a year, was not in their frame of reference. Controlling their surroundings, controlling their children, judging and acquiring is what makes up their lives. Real communication is impossible with such folk. It is all about 'What can I get.' They do not want to look within. They do not want to feel and heal their pain but they will dump it on you.

To reach such people is nigh on impossible and to heal their addiction to food when full, wine, money and TV is just not possible in this lifetime. But that is not my job. To heal people who do not want to change is not my job. They will ignore and continue to ignore the winds of change until the hurricane arrives and they wonder what went wrong. They will be forced to change. Life makes sure that change whose time has come - will come. 

You have heard the phrase - If you don't hear the whispers, life will knock you over the head with a two by four. So it is. So what is the alternative? None of us want to be hit with a two by four. Hearing the whispers is a start. You will be ahead of the game, so to speak, when you can hear and pay attention to the whispers. What do they sound like - those whispers? Well they can be a whisper to simply cut down on your caffeine intake, or that repeated bout of bronchitis telling you to seek out help to quit smoking. Your child telling you that she is being bullied at school and you really need to start home schooling. The heavy work load telling you to cut down to part time hours. The house move. The angry neighbour. They are all nudges that are indicating the direction of the wind before the hurricane comes.

Allow change. Of course it is scary sometimes, but not all the time. Like excitedly planning to go to college, or take up an evening class, or preparing for the birth of a baby. All change will challenge us. Life is about challenge. It is not the mainstream idea that - You get slim and all your problems go away. You get rich and your life is perfect. You get the perfect husband and you are forever safe and free. You move to the bigger house and all is well. No, life is not like that. We all have good times and bad times, all of us - regardless. 

Living life is about mastering the way to approach / respond to what life gives us - good or bad, until we transcend both and see the non-duality in all of it. Within every difficult experience is a seed of good and within every brilliant experience is the regular life of emotion and normality. It all balances out. But I know one thing - to run away from life through eating when full, drinking or smoking, overworking or whatever, being unaware of your very own self, your actions and reactions, your own self-destructive behaviour, narcissistic behaviour, you will be living half a life. The alternative? Stop eating when full, pinpoint and resolve the emotional issues that cause you to crave anything, and raise your self-awareness and self acceptance. Then, then you will find true riches, then you will have the authentic life, where no one and no thing has any power over you. You roll with the punches so to speak and you abide by / follow / go with the winds of change...

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