The Stages of Life

 Life is a stage and all of us are actors. Now who said that? 

This noble truth is certainly a mystical truth and so are the various stages of life that we go through as human beings. As we get older the stage and scenery change, even the costumes and makeup change with the set. From the beauty of youth which brings its' blessings and its' drawbacks, to ripe old age with its' blessings and drawbacks too, we all must live this life which we have been given as some sort of a Cosmic Gift which few understand. 

So, in the stage of youth we have to realise that beauty and slimness have negative connotations as well as positive? Yes! Unwanted attention for one. Feeling you would have no substance, no grounding is another.

For example, in the subconscious many have the idea that being beautiful and slim is dangerous, too much power, the fear of being promiscuous, and facing jealousy from other women and unwanted advances from other men and women even. So the beautiful one must also learn how to not only flaunt her beauty as mainstream media (and one's own hormones) would have you do; but also she must learn to protect herself from unwanted advances, in order to master that stage of life. 

Learning how to deal with people with agendas etc. 

So yes, let's let go of this concept that once you are slim and beautiful you have the world at your feet. It is not true, let's go a level deeper - life is made of stages - for the woman it is the maiden, mother and old crone or wise woman. Each stage brings its' own unique joys and sorrows, all to be experienced, not run away from, but faced up to and felt, gone through, learned from and integrated. 

That is the art of taking it all into one's own self. Being big enough, if you like, to encompass it all, absorb it all into your being and from that a certain ability to cope, wisdom and solution finding happens. This is creating something new. That solution literally creates something new, a new life circumstance, and new life and this can happen throughout all the stages of your life.

For more info on healing eating disorders and addiction recovery contact Sofia on sofia2227@gmail.com or text 07530 531 655

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