Encouraing addiction

  How is addiction 'encouraged' within society? Well, have you ever seen a TV series or watched a film where one or other of the characters says - 'I need a drink!' Maybe they have had a hard day at work and head for the bar, and with a sigh it is their well deserved reward or pick-me-up. The party just is not a party without alcohol. You see the depressed business man pour himself a stiff whisky. It is in all our films and TV series as the go-to method of life to feel better, drown your sorrows or celebrate. It is tied in with relationships and love, loneliness and problem solving.

The truth is, it rots our kidneys and liver, and does little to solve our problems. Again and again I promote the idea of emotional resolving as your only way through this life with any healing and peace. Without food when full, without alcohol, without addiction period, your life is more authentic and an adventure. So look at where you are not looking. That means look at where you are avoiding seeing something. A situation you are not facing up to because of fear. Are you fearful about your health? Are you fearful about your marriage? There is a place you are not looking, that place is where your emotions lie, specifically your unresolved emotions. That anger at your father, the bitterness towards your mother, your unresolved pain about your first love affaire that left you pregnant and you had to have an abortion. What is it that you run from? You run from it and straight to the food when full or alcohol to drown it out and suppress it. This perpetuates the problem. The solution? When you crave food when full or alcohol ask yourself - What feeling is this? What would I feel, what would I become aware of if I did not have this food when full or drink? What emotions and situations are careering through my mind and body now? In other words - What's it all about?

And then follow through on the healthy answer to the question  - Given the fact I feel this way, what would I like to do now? 

Go for a walk, take the kids out for the day, seek a divorce, move to a cheeper flat, spend some time with your mother, your best friend, seek counselling, read a book, get a job, leave your job. You get the idea? These are suggestions, but you and you alone, are the sole power and authority in your life's decisions. Take that power step by step by following through on the intuitive hunches and guidance that is within you and comes forth by asking yourself the above questions.

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Until next time...

Blessings Sofia

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