Living in the tribe

 Something that has always fascinated me is the concept that living in a tribe, or living communally would be a great way to live. 

A mother and father living with their offspring, totally devoid of friendship, or human connection except the bare minimum is unhealthy to say the least.

Humans need contact, not chained together contact, till death do us part, but real contact of genuine friends.

The reasons why many marriages fail is the fact that in the course of being together the unhealed wounds of childhood will surface, and the couple, ill equipped to deal with them crumbles. Few make it to marriage guidance and what statistics there are on the success of that I do not know.

What I do know is that 'love brings up anything unlike itself' that means that with great love between the couple, nature is still going to allow the unhealed wounds to surface. 

Because this is a little known dynamic in relationships people are freaked out when this occurs. They do not even know what is happening except that they are falling apart, will break up or live in misery for the rest of their lives, never really addressing the emotional traumas that are trying to come to light to be healed. 

How may couples do you see who are drinking or smoking, overeating or are on some form of medication to keep the band aid on.

Now there are many groups where people try to operate as one unit for mutual support. Church groups, education groups, ashrams and communes only to find bickering and 'politics' get in the way and the group never achieves its optimum goals. 

What I feel is happening, is that we have more or less all been brought up distant from our intuition. Separate from ourselves and separate from others, even separate from our surroundings and nature, always being 'told what to do, wear and be' and never really finding our own inner guidance system, we lack the skills to really heal and move through issues in a healthy way.

That is why I have always loved self-healing, self-help support group work, self-help  or inspirational books, holistic methods of health, and energy work. 

Self-enquiry is an amazing tool to inner peace, and when you have a group of people working towards, healthy goals of being and living, you are on to a good thing.

Organic gardeners, natural health practitioners, living in harmony with nature, land and animals, exploiting none, then you are creating a lovely world to live in.

New and old healing methods that focus on healing on a deep level, such as sweat lodges, breath-work, Yoga and meditation with supportive mentors that can help when the going gets tough. This is an ideal blueprint on which to live a life free from, the obligatory, drink, drugs and rich food eaten when full.

Life can be made anew every day, so ponder your own desires for better health and a new way of living that is about co-operation and inter-dependance, harmony and enlightenment.

For further info on breath-work sessions or addiction healing sessions via Skype of FB Video Call

email sofia2227@gmail.com Also see the link to my book Addiction Demystified

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