Permission

You must give yourself permission to have the foods you love. You must give yourself permission to have the so called fattening foods.  The reason I say 'so called' fattening foods is because food in and of itself cannot be 'fattening' if eaten when genuinely, physically, hungry. And this is the vital issue - the genuine physical hunger. The only 'fattening food' is food eaten when you are already physically full. That food will put weight on because it is the excess eating (the eating when full) that causes the excess weight. Your body physically does not need that food and it gets immediately turned into fat cells. Excess food goes into storage, so to speak. Food we eat when we are physically full is food we do not need to stay alive. We need food when hungry to say alive. The hunger sensation is literally saying 'Hey you need to eat something now if you want to keep living.' And our bodies have that fullness gauge in order to inform us that no more food is needed in order to stay alive, fit and healthy.

So there must be no forbidden foods only foods you willingly choose not to have at that moment in time. 

What we are doing here is trying to increase your ability to say 'no' to food when you want to say no. That means if you are physically full of food you can say no to more food. If you want to abstain from meat, dairy etc then what can increase your chances of actually being able to do that on a regular and permanent basis without any feelings of deprivation? The answer is - Permission. Permission, permission. With the attitude of genuine permission you know you are not trying to force yourself to do something you really do not want to do. With the reassurance permission gives you, you create freedom to have that food if you want it, and also the option to not have it if you so choose.  It simply becomes a wise choice. 

Don't you realise that when you say to yourself - 'I can't have that!' - Another part of you kicks in and says - 'I jolly well am going to have it and then some!'

Forced deprivation is an ugly and ineffective way to try to control your eating patterns. But when you bring in permission, when you consciously develop an attitude of permission, you are establishing a friendly rapport with what you are trying to accomplish. You are allowing you to trust you to make wise and healthy choices. You are being a kind caring parent to your inner child. You acknowledge that you like cake and that it would be cruel to simply berate yourself every time you fancied a piece. Say to yourself - 'If I am genuinely physically hungry and I fancy cake then I'll have some, but I know I don't want to live off the stuff.'

Sweet, savoury, hot, cold, fried or grilled, all that variety of food is there for you to choose from, not have a battle with. After all slim people eat 'fattening food' they just do not eat it when they are FULL!

Eating when genuinely, physically, hungry and stopping when full gets you slim. Eating when genuinely, physically hungry and stopping when full keeps you slim. It is the way and the destination.

So remember, this is the key, permission to eat whatever you want when genuinely physically hungry and learning how to stop when full, through resolving any emotional issues, underlying cravings to eat when full or binge on sugar etc.

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