Feeling diminished

In the arena of losing excess weight we have to acknowledge one thing - We are trying to make ourselves less. Less big. Now, how on earth could that be important, it is simply obvious, and certainly not worth any consideration. It is just a fact you want to be slimmer - end of! Or is it?

In my own story of weight loss, delving into my subconscious to ascertain how and why I got overweight and had crazy eating habits, I discovered several things.

One: There was a lot more to this ''losing a few pounds'' than first meets the eye. I had to look deeper into my subconscious motives. I discovered ''being big'' meant something. I had no way of ''being big'' in terms of being appreciated, supported or nurtured in the world I was growing up in. Being big meant being seen and I certainly was not seen. My parents hardly ever looked at me unless it was to scold me over some (often) meaningless issue, like ''Eat your peas.''

Two: Being diminished. How does that happen? We feel diminished by not being seen, heard or deemed acceptable. People not having time for us is a typical scenario ( and all too common) that leaves a child or adult person feeling diminished.

Three: Putting on weight becomes a subconscious cry - See Me!! 

Unravelling the subconscious is a big part in healing you compulsive eating and becoming slim for good. So avail of the Zoom group or one to one sessions Email: Sofia2227@gmail.com


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