Sofia Bothwell

An unresolved emotional issue is simply an issue whose totality of emotions you have not felt nor experienced. At the time the issue or trauma happened you either consciously suppressed, or unconsciously repressed, the totality of emotion that it caused within you because basically you couldn't handle it.  It was too much, too painful, too weird, too uncomfortable or too traumatic to feel in its entirety. The healing scenario is that at a later time when you are in safer surroundings and safer circumstances, it will automatically surface and you can feel it, experience it and thus it gets resolved, heals and you have completion around that incident. Now this is basic psychological and physical health wisdom. To know this automatic phenomenon of the emotional nature of a human being is essential. Most of us are not taught this truth. This dynamic is not understood and instead we are given the idea that surfacing emotions associated with past traumas are dubious things and need to be...

The mainstream phrase  - 'I don't wanna go there!' - shows how much time and effort can be put into avoiding a painful issue;  but what if the avoiding of that issue actually makes you sick. Addiction is a sickness and addiction is all about avoidance. In fact when we face up to something that previously was a painful issue, daring to feel the uncomfortable feeling involved, taking any peaceful appropriate action if any is needed to be taken and thus resolving it, we find ourselves devoid of any craving to eat when full or indulge in any other addiction. Addiction is an avoidance tactic. Avoiding our unresolved emotional issues. That fight you had with your husband. The tension between you and your mother-in-law. The work stress, the dead-end career or what ever it is that is bothering you so much and you find so repulsive that you just don't want to go there.  Master Healer and Author Deborah King has stated that in mainstream society emotions are viewed with suspicion...